For Every Girl Who has Never had a Boyfriend- The Rant

I would call this entry an essay but I'd be lying. The only real essays I ever wrote were for school. I never liked them either. I prefer to rant.

For the last few weeks I've been thinking about writing this story (not Pentecostal. Someday I'll write that...someday) about a girl who doesn't date while she's in high school. It's not about a dating commitment. It's not because no guy will ask her out (though no guy ever does). It's for more selfish reasons. Just like why most teenagers now do date.

The story starts with the main character (let's name her for the heck of it), Jamie, realizes her best friend has no time for her. It's not just because her friend has a boyfriend either (though, that's part of it). Her friend is also part of marching band, French Club, Major's Beautification Committee, takes way too many honors classes, etc. In other words, her life is way too cluttered. Jamie also has two older sisters who have had terrible boyfriends. Some smoke, others have cheated, most lie, one was abusive; the list goes on. All around school there are these girls. Some of them have horrible boyfriends, like her sisters and others just spend too much time with them, like her friend. Deciding life (or just really high school) is too short to waste on boys...At least in the fashion of a boyfriend.

This story will not end in with her getting a boyfriend after graduation. She may in the future of her life, but that's another story, which I will not write. Jamie may or may not get asked out in the story (though I wrote before that she won't). She'll turn whoever asks her out down, though. She'll face much criticism. It won't become a popular trend nor will she change her high school or the world with this mission. This story isn't that stereotypical.

Jamie is just like any other teenage girl. She's insecure, vain, and wants to know who she is. She decides, though, that finding out who you are doesn't need to be through a guy (how mature). She doesn't come to this conclusion right away, though. She learns it. By not dating? You may ask. Yes!

I've been told several reasons why girls want boyfriends and I had my own as a teenager. I honestly thought I was missing out on something. This story is about what you might miss by having a boyfriend. There is disadvantages to being single, yes, but there's also disadvantages to being part of a couple. I'm not against dating. I'm just against dating while in high school.

I know alot of teens. I work with them at the library and teach Sunday School at my church. They're too young. At least the ones, I know are, to be looking for a soulmate. In my opinion that's what dating is for. So, you can find out who you are to marry. When you date you're giving bits of your heart away. That's a serious thing. Most relationships (especially dating ones) require some emotion and love to survive and thrive. Dating should be romantic, otherwise it's not dating. It takes some serious heart to do that. I'm not the expert or anything but we got to be careful who we give our hearts to. Most of the teenagers I know can't take care of themselves on their own. What makes them think they can take care of someone else's heart. I love teenagers, that's why I work with them any chance I get, but they don't know who they are. At all. It's my opinion that you should have a good idea of who you are before you date. This way you don't compromise and do things you'll later regret.

High school is a time that is all ready filled with too much experimenting. Experimentation can be a good thing but not when it involves doing a lot of wrong. One can do a lot of wrong by dating too soon.

I've ranted long enough. This entry isn't even part of the entries I had planned for this week. Consider it extra. It only costs your time.

-Nichole